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The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will regard bottoming at some hour. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can acquire douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do apply amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased exposure of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs enjoy Viagra and may lead to a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
Five tips for same-sex attracted men on steaming and healthy relationships
1. Be aware of expectations and stereotypes
Just because some people like casual sex or being in open relationships – where both people in the couple agree it’s okay to have sex with other people – it doesn’t mean everyone does. This pretty much goes without saying in heterosexual relationships. But often queer men feel a pressure and an expectation for them to be okay with a non-exclusive relationship.
If you touch jealous or uncomfortable with your companion having sex with someone else, then an open partnership probably isn’t for you. And that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to explain your partner what you are looking for in a relationship.
2. Avoid the trap of organism macho
Many societies build a culture where men are expected to be macho and competitive. For men in queer relationships this can put added pressure on a connection. It’s important to avoid comparing yourself to anyone else – whether that be your body, finances, skills or anything else – or feeling competitive if that’s not your thing. Fixate on supporting and celebrating the successes of friends and partners instead and see how much better that feels.
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Lets Talk About Sex | 4 Healthy Communication Tips for Lgbtq+ Couples Struggling With Sexual Issues
Many of us are comfortable talking about sex with friends. We divulge details, share tips and tricks, and even get suggestions on aspects of our strained sex lives. Talking openly and honestly with our sexual partners, however, comes with a higher level of discomfort. Talking with transparency comes with the chance of hurting our partners’ feelings, embarrassing ourselves, and asking for things that feel selfish, and it forces us to be vulnerable about the parts of ourselves many of us seek to hide: our naked, sexual bodies.
Psychological research shows that couples who talk openly about sex report higher levels of relational satisfaction. How, though, do couples talk about sex so easily?
Tip #1: Spend Time Destigmatizing Sex, Sexual Activity, and Sexual Body Parts.
One of the best ways to work through the discomfort of sexuality is to choose up a sex guidebook that can help you learn more about your body, sex, and sexuality in general. Some of my personal favorite books on this topic are Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity and Janet Hardy’s The Ethical Slut. Books like these will help
Sexual health for gay and pansexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to move beyond on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the chance of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV examine every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is essential, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can receive it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated nourishment and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can emerge up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a packed recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se